Right from beginning, it was never about intimacy. Adam did not go to God and had a chat about how he needed a woman to satisfy his manly desires. It was never about sx.
There comes a time when sx is not fun anymore, when there are other people involved in the marriage who also need the couple’s attention, like offspring. What then? Yes, sx is great for a marriage, but it is not the foundation of marriage. It is not a reason to marry or get married. God said, it is not good that man should be alone. He did not say, “I see that my son Adam is sx starved, let me make a woman.”
Why did Adam and Eve not have any children in the garden of Eden? Why did they only have kids after they left Eden? Simple… They were never intimate until they left Eden.
Build your marriage on companionship, love, happiness and put sx out of the equation…. This is the secret to a happy and healthy marriage. When everything else is working well in a marriage, sx is enjoyable. It is not forced… It is communion of lovers and not an obligation. It also becomes love-making, not sx. It is simply icing on the cake, not the cake itself!
The Bible discourages sx between unmarried people for a reason. It is so that couples don’t marry for it. I heard one lady say she wants to test drive so that when she is married, she knows that the car can really move. That is just a load of rubbish.
God wants us to enjoy marriage, not endure it. Unfortunately, we keep insisting on doing things our own way. How did it work out for Adam and Eve? God’s way is always the right way. May the peace of God be with you.