On the eve of Valentine’s Day, I had the privilege to be have lunch with a strong, beautiful queen, a warrior, a survivor, Vaal’s radio personality and motivational speaker, Nthabiseng Mosuoe. Nthabi oozes life! She’s so bubbly that you’d never guess the trauma, tragic and pain that marred her childhood.
Article by Constance van Niekerk (Connie V)
I was almost in tears as Nthabi related her early years. Yet, as the true queen she is, she said it with a smile not with a heavy heart or teary eyes.
“I can choose to be a victim, or I can choose to use my past experiences as stepping stones on my flight to reach greater heights,” says Nthabi.
Her story begins in Mants’onyane in Lesotho, where she was born. At the tender age of 7, she faced rejection as her father abandoned her, mother and 2 siblings. Nthabi never saw her father again, even though he was alive. He never visited, he didn’t assist financially or in any other way. Her father passed away on the 13th last month, January.
“I didn’t attend the funeral. I couldn’t. How could I attend a funeral of someone who is as good as a stranger? My mom and siblings went, but I didn’t see the point,” she explained.
After her father left, Nthabi and her siblings were moved from one relative to another. It was unfortunately, at one family member’s house that she was repeatedly raped at the age of 8.
“The most traumatic experience I had was being repeatedly raped by a relative me and my younger brother stayed with. I was 8years old. When you’re a child, you’re at times not aware that you’re being abused. I didn’t like being touched and used in such a manner, but I also didn’t have anyone to talk to. My mom left us there in search of jobs and at one time she had to stay with my other brother who was in hospital,”
She carries on saying, “It was my uncle’s place. But, the man who raped me was related to my uncle’s wife. We stayed there close to a year, we moved from place to place because my mother struggled financially. After grade 7, she was unable to pay my fees for high school, so yet again had to go stay with another relative. This time across the border into South Africa. I was 15years old.”
“As a teenager, depression creeped in because of the life challenges at such an early stage in life. My school grades were affected thereby failing my matric,” Nthabi elucidated.
Without matric, without proper counseling and without a father-figure in her life, Nthabi did what most young women in her shoes do, she got married.
“At 21, my boyfriend proposed and we got married. After a few months, the marriage became a living hell. I experienced every kind of abuse you can think of. I lost confidence, I lost my self-esteem, I lost hope but, ultimately, I lost ‘me’. I had to get out, but for a while I couldn’t because I worried about what people would think. I was bothered about what people would say.”
Eventually, at 23, she became a divorcee.
“It wasn’t easy. I hid myself from everyone, relatives, neighbours, ex-husband. I kept myself indoors all the time. Then one day while I looked in the mirror, I felt God speak to me. I felt Him saying, ‘the person you see in the mirror is the strongest person ever. She is not a failure. She is my child,” she narrates.
“I understood that my biological father might have abandoned me, but, I have a greater Father who is there for me. I felt Him saying that He will always be there for me and He will never abandon me. I’m His, I’m His child, His creation. And He has a purpose for my life. So, it was after this encounter with my Father that I’mHis Inspirational Talks was born”
“I’mHis Inspirational Talks is to make people aware that they’re not defined by their past or pain. I’mHis Inspirational Talks restores hope, motivates and strengthens those going through pain, abuse, rejection and every negative emotion. Your past does not dictate your future. You have the power to change your future, but not your past. So, embrace your past and take each experience as well of strength and wisdom because each experience makes us wiser and stronger.”
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She goes on to say, “many people died physically but, a lot more emotionally and spiritually because of abuse. Because of my own life story, I have become a voice of hope and am willing to be there for anyone who needs it.”
Nthabi says she’s grateful for former workmate, motivational speaker and radio personality, Memorial Moreki. She describes her as her inspiration here in the Vaal, among others. Memorial, founder of Seed of Greatness Talks gave Nthabi tips and courage to pursue her passion. “I was inspired by her passion for her work,” says Nthabi.
Ms Mosuoe wears many belts. She’s a Motivational Speaker an author, a radio personality, a life coach and educator.
“I’ve always wanted to be a radio personality. I remember as a young girl, I’d ask my mom to ‘put me inside the radio’! I had no idea how it worked but all I knew was that I wanted to be ‘inside the radio’. Radio is in me, it’s the place where I become me. I was first on radio on the 14th of August 2014 at Thetha FM with DJ Bongani on the Afternoon Drive. I was in Matric at the time.”
Nthabi later in Dec 2014 joined Lekoa FM, community radio station in Vereeniging and has been there to date. She hosts ‘Tsoseletso YaMoya’ that airs every Sunday from 10am to 12 midnight.
Her debut book, “A Cause of Being A Woman’ which will be launching very soon was published and edited in Lesotho. In her book, she shares her life story, “Whatever you’re going through at the moment is just a a cause to carry you to a greater place, a platform to use your scars as teaching for others.’
This is a book I personally can’t wait to get my hands on. Every chapter in the book ends with some motivation. It is a book that aims to motivate and uplift. Nthabi, through her book is a voice of hope. Her message is loud and clear, ‘Your past does not define you. Don’t give up on life because you’ve had some bad experiences. There is still hope for a brighter future, regardless of what you went through.’
“I do counselling, I host empowerment events/talks. I also visit schools and in future will be taking I’mHis Inspirational Talks to the streets, prisons and anywhere where there’s life! Because where there’s still life, there’s hope!” She says with her most beautiful smile.
Nthabi’s story starts tragically, but the current state is nowhere near tragic. She is without a doubt one of the strongest women I’ve met. Small in stature, but it’s true what they say, ‘Dynamite comes in small packages’. She indeed is dynamite and she’s going places.
“My story didn’t make me bitter,” she chuckled, “it made me better”.
See you at the next I’mHis Inspirational Talks, better still, invite her to talk at your event. I’ll be there.